Don't allow yourself to get attached without a 'requirements for my attachment' list.

The list can just be in your head, but it's best if you write it down. Especially if you're new to courting and or being courted there can be a struggle to not get attached quickly.

To avoid being exploited and hurt, you need to train yourself to not get attached without basic expectations and requirements being met, screening standards being met.

For example, a list can be...

\- He doesn't pressure me or coerce me for sex. He is letting me control the pace of intimacy.

\- Over time, I have observed that he is a decent person, who is responsible, honest, empathetic, and knows right from wrong.

\- We have discussed our goals, values, what we are looking for, if we are compatible or not.

\- He treats me with respect. He respects my time, energy, efforts.

\- He is a good communicator-- he listens to me and can also express his own feelings/thoughts.

\- He is high effort, shows high interest consistently.

\- etc

You're judging his true character this way, rather than only imagining things in your mind and projecting good attributes onto him based on his outward behavior. Allowing emotion to interfere with your screening is not a good idea. Also, train yourself to gradually become attached for example, at first you only like him as an individual, you value him as a person, and you believe he has potential, and so on.

Don't look at a single thing he did before deciding he's now trustworthy and it's healthy to get attached to him. Keep a close eye on your surroundings and allow yourself plenty of time to screen. Before one month, the majority of men will show you their true colors or their butt.

Others can take a few months longer, although this is rarely the case. Also, date other men during this time don't get too close to one guy just because you're just talking to him. Men have backup women, so you should do the same.

Don't do the usual thing of meeting a random guy off of an app (and therefore becoming used to having awkward encounters with random guys, unable to screen), having drinks on a low-effort date, and having sex quickly.

If you don't change your approach to dating, you'll get entangled easily, be exploited, and hurt, and the cycle will begin. So, avoid low-effort dates, avoid drink dates, and, if at all possible, avoid dating apps—all of these things lead to late, risky early attachment.

Your attachment should be difficult to obtain; it should be a reward for a man who is deserving of it. Women get attached to men before they realize their true character for the most part because of sex. Loneliness and alcohol are a near second. Stop having sex before completing a rigorous screening, as well as alcohol and isolation. Allowing yourself to get emotionally attached to some random Tom, Dick, or Dickhead is a bad idea. If you've been conditioned to use "chemistry" and "sparks" as the primary screening requirements, learn to unlearn it because you'll most likely end up in a lot of trouble if you do. Ask yourself why should a random man, who I have no idea if he is a good person or not, who I have no idea if he is lying to me or not, get my attachment?

Men can take advantage of your desire more often than not, so keep that in mind.