Boundaries

It makes no difference how many limits you profess to have if you refuse to enforce them. Boundaries require temporary discomfort and inescapable conflict; you can't show others your limits unless you expose them to your non-negotiables and things you won't tolerate in concrete ways.

You must get used to having unpleasant conversations, leaving people and places behind, and asking difficult questions in situations where you might be mistreated or laughed at. Be willing to ignore and abstain from things that may seem appealing at the time but are in direct opposition to the standards and goals you have established for yourself (i.e. drinking alcohol or breaking your celibacy).

Boundaries are more than just words; when properly used, they form an integral part of the lifestyle of people who are devoted to only engaging in activities that are consistent with their values, standards, and life path.