Basically:

• It is not a virtue to be unable to establish limits.

• It's not a good way to express love by ignoring your own wishes and needs.

• people worth loving will respect your boundaries

• people worth loving will not want you to set aside your own wants and needs to make them more comfortable

• ‘having no boundaries at all’ describes a person who is very hurt, not a person who is very virtuous

• suffering for others’ comfort is not how you be a good person, it is just how you become very hurt

• sometimes you need to make others uncomfortable in order to get your needs met

• your needs are more important than others’ comfort

• your comfort is equally important to others’ comfort